Wednesday, May 16, 2012

Depressed Again

Are You Depressed Again?

To be depressed would describe a feeling of low mood, that can affect us all once in a while, but if you find yourself depressed again and again, you aren't just sad or upset. You may have clinical depression, and that is described as an illness. You would have intense feelings of constant sadness and hopelessness. Your body would feel it also, by not being able to sleep, having a loss of energy, or having aches and pains.

If you find you are depressed again, take a look at some of the most common signs of the illness:
  • Tired or loss of energy
  • Trouble Sleeping
  • Feelings of hopelessness and/or helplessness
  • Hard to function at work or school
  • Loss of appetite
  • Not enjoying the things that you usually do
  • Trouble concentrating
  • Avoiding other people
  • Physical aches and pains
  • Feeling down or depressed again and again
  • Thoughts of suicide and death
Taking control of your depression is crucial to your emotional health.

Self help Tips To Help Take Control Of Your Emotions

1. Decide to be happy. Make the choice!

2. Take control of your environment. Create a calm and soothing atmosphere for yourself. Avoid high traffic by taking the scenic route.
3. Lighten up your schedule. Are you overloaded? Evaluate your responsibilities and eliminate or lessen what isn't absolutely necessary. Prioritize.

4. Learn to say, "NO".

5. Pace yourself by slowing down a bit. Give your self an emotional "time-out" when needed.

6. Avoid refined sugar (sweets). The foods you eat can make a difference with your mood. Research what foods can actually help boost your mood. Watch your eating habits, so you do not find yourself depressed again.

7. Limit your contact with people who add to your stress or who are negative. End unhealthy relationships!

8. Relax. Breathe. And focus on the positive.

Write down some of the things in your life that make you unhappy. Then create a new perspective for each one of those things. Find a new way of looking at it. A way that can make it a GOOD thing.

When you find yourself thinking negatively about a situation, and you slip back to being depressed again, just find a positive, new way to look at the problem. Positive thinking can have amazing results!

Get a load of this:
Did you know that most people who are depressed, actually choose to be? Even if you don't realize it, you DO have control over your emotions! Hard to swallow, I know, but I'd say that is Good news!

That means that you can DO something about it! Yay!

Sometimes you have to “do” something about the situation and you're so depressed that you don't feel like it. If you just do it, you may begin feeling like it! Did that make sense? When I find my self getting depressed again, and I need to do something, I'll start to parent myself. I will do it just because I was told to, even if I don't feel like it. But once I started doing it, I felt more like doing it.

You can either continue to look at the things the same way, and be depressed again, or you can choose to look at it in a more positive way. I choose the positive way.

If you have a comment you'd like to share about being depressed again, we'd love to hear it!


  1. i like number 4 so much
    i believe we can also say no to bad emotions by being strong
    thanks for the post : )

  2. Yes, learning to say, "no" can be a difficult one for many. I will elaborate on that one later. Thanks for the comment!

  3. I wad in a bad mood yesterday and I called my friend baf names,becus i was depressed ,idk why but i cant apologise.

  4. I'm always depressed when I'm all alone and so much things go in my mind tht makes me so sad. How can I get my mind off of things tht upset me the most?

  5. Johanna,

    One of the things that I do when I find myself getting depressed again, is to start counting my blessings. Make a list (and even write it down!)
    of all the things that you are grateful for.

    Everyone has sad things in there life at times, but dwelling on them will only make you feel worse. Go ahead and cry about it, get angry, do what you have to do to get through it. But then, take charge of your thinking, and get on with enjoying your life!
    We only have one life and your time on earth will
    be up before you know it, so just allow yourself be happy during it!

    Make your surroundings more pleasant for yourself.
    If you are around negative people, get away! Find
    positive friends to be around.
    Get positive and uplifting books to read, or cd's to
    listen to. Do some brainstorming about what makes
    you feel good, and how can you make it come about.
    And while doing your brainstorming, you may find it
    difficult to think of sad things. =)

    I hope I've given you (and maybe others) some ideas
    that will help you know how to be happy again.

    God bless.

  6. I've not long come out of a relationship with someone who I was so in love with and still am, he/she really dosen't care any more and were both sick of trying and trying and trying and never getting anywhere and he/she has let go now and says ' I don't hurt no more move on ' but I really can't I'm still stuck in the past with all the memories and I'm searching the internet for any advice that can help me be happy again. I used to be stronger then this I don't know what happend. If you have any advice for me please let me know I'd appreciate it a lot ..

  7. Anonymous,

    Although is not exactly an advice column, and I do not know enough about your situation, I'll give you one person's point of view.

    If your friend has truly moved on, then it's time for you to, also. Take all of the passion you have toward this person, and begin to put it towards improving yourself. You're experiencing a loss, and it takes time to heal from any loss. Give yourself time. Don't expect to get over it in a day. You can and will be happy again. Focus on you and taking care of you.
    If you can do that, then you will also begin to feel stronger again.

  8. There is one thing I could use help advice counsel something I been Googling when I can I'm not sure exactly to put it But here it goes the best I can

    I'm a depressed person I been trying to make everyone else happy and love em that I seem to forgotten what makes me happy and I also forgotten how to love my self It like I become a bitter person

    I have basically rid my life of all who hurt me badly and who treated me badly I been so wrapped up in protecting my children from those who did me wrong And I seem to become this person who forgot how to love and be happy with my self And just become so bitter and hate full and self districting

  9. Anonymous,

    I think you said it yourself, that you try to make everyone else happy and forget yourself. That can make one bitter.

    Sometimes we may feel like we are being selfish if we say, "no" to others and think of what we need ourselves, but sometimes that's exactly what we need to do. Sometimes we just need some serenity to regain our piece of mind. Some time for prayer maybe? Or someone to talk to that is a good listener. Talk to God, a counselor, or a friend.

    Take care of yourself!

  10. It is normal to get depressed but when it gets worsen that is how difficult to resolve mental issues. I get depressed all the time but I able to manage the problem somehow.

  11. I usaully finding myself wishing I wasn't existing or thinking about ending my life I just don't know what to do I was very depressed last year the only thing I thought of each day was all the ways I could get let out of this cage called life I often thought of myself as nothing and people would be happy if I was finally gonei just want to be happy but I dont know how

  12. Hi, i am very stresses and nervous. Whenever i thing of bad things i just get sick and my pulse is about 100. I dont know why this happen to me. I try to be positive but again when i thing of doing something good and fun i just loose the interes and again

  13. Please some advices

  14. Anonymous, please visit our page on Controlling Anxiety (link in the upper left column). You sound like you need to find a way that will calm yourself when you start feeling nervous. Try some different things that we suggest on the anxiety page to see if one or more helps. Then make it a habit to do it every time you begin to feel stressed or nervous. Consider talking the issue over with a trusted friend, or counselor. Take care.

  15. I just wanted to ask if the panic away program is for real since the link i foubd in your article about anxiety. Sory for bothering you.

  16. Anonymous, Yes the panic away program is a for real program. It is not my own, so I could not tell you any more about it. (And you are never a bother).